“Act under the assumption that if you’re not doing it, someone is not getting it. Your voice matters–in your world–in your sphere of influence.” -Kindra Kauer
When I met Kindra, I expected her to be beautiful, I expected her to have a winning smile, I expected her to be confident. I was right, she was all those things. What I didn’t expect, but what I found to be true, was that her beauty was a reflection of strength, her smile was a choice to accentuate the positive and her confidence was the knowledge that she, like every person, is capable of great things.
Meet Kindra Kauer, crowned Ms. Utah June 18, competing for Ms. United States August 3.
Kindra’s story of triumph started with domestic violence. She married a man who abused her in every way. She spent a lot of time in locked rooms, waiting for him to break down the door to hurt her. One day she was crying on the bathroom floor, praying for clarity, when she realized, it wasn’t just about her, it was about her future children. With this new motivation came strength, and Kindra left.
Being a victim of domestic violence was depressing, sickening, terrifying and lonely. Kindra didn’t want this for herself and she didn’t want it for anyone else. After getting herself safe, Kindra looked to pulling others to safety, and within the year had coached eight other victims of domestic abuse. She realized something that would change everything, she realized people needed to hear her voice.
She says, “People are waiting for a voice, people are waiting for help. If I don’t speak up, if I’m not vulnerable and put myself out there, they might never hear the words that they need.”
Even though it was uncomfortable at times, Kindra continued to share her story, eventually creating a community through her personal Facebook page. Women, seeing her inspiring messages, began private messaging her, asking for further guidance or expressing appreciation.
A director with United States National Pageants saw what Kindra was doing and asked her to compete for Ms. Utah United States.
Fast forward to today, Kindra Kauer, Ms. Utah, is using her title to reach more people. She is telling abused women: your story is my story. I am no longer a victim and you no longer have to be a victim. Your path might not be to compete in pageants, but your path is powerful and it is perfect for you.
I think everyone’s path includes Kindra’s counsel to me:
Act under the assumption that if you’re not doing it, someone is not getting it.
Your voice matters–in your world–in your sphere of influence.
Ian MacLaren said, “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.”
Your voice, your story, your smile, just might be what they need.
Me and Kindra
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